“Help, I need somebody
Help, not just anybody
Help, you know I need someone, help”
Everyone needs help at some point in their lives. They may not realize it at first, or they may not need the assistance of others, but there comes a time of either hopelessness or vulnerability where we are forced to swallow our pride and seek help. It’s ironic how the people who may need help are the ones that are most reluctant to accept it. And that those who are constantly begging for advice or ideas are the ones that aren’t in need at all. When someone is at their lowest point in their lives, a lot goes through their heads. They find themselves thinking things they know aren’t right. These people sometimes turn to substances such as alcohol or drugs to dull the pain that exists in the real world. They need help, but they don’t wish to ask.
In my opinion, people don’t want to ask because of several reasons. First of all, people fear rejection. If you forget your fears and tell someone what is going on, they may not want to assist you, or they might be incapable. There’s instances where we are turned away or abandoned by those we thought would never commit such an act. For some reason, people betray one another or don’t respond in the way that was expected. Furthermore, those who need help are unwilling to accept it. They don’t want to be pitied. They are too prideful and don’t want to be perceived as weak. They don’t want to burden others or have to rely on people; therefore, they act as if everything is fine. There’s also the factor of denial. If someone believes everything is okay, why should they need help? They are deceiving themselves, or they might just be blind to the bad place they are in.
When you decide that someone is in need and you want to help them, there is a chance they don’t want your assistance. We’ve all seen or heard of the show called “Intervention”, where families and friends hold a meeting with someone they care about who has turned to drugs. They see the problems in that person’s life and want what’s best for them, but at the same time, there’s the question of if that person is willing to take the steps they are recommending.
In “A Tale of Two Cities”, Dickens describes the dreams that Lorry is having in the mail cart. These made up conversations between Lorry and the man he is supposedly going to dig out of a grave are repetitive. One of the questions Lorry asks the man is, “I hope you care to live?” to which the man responds, “I can’t say.” Lorry has a mission to save this man, yet he is unsure if the man wants to be saved. This is connected to the idea that people can be willing to help others, but they may be faced with rejection from those they are aiming to save.
Asking for help can be a difficult thing to do. Obviously, asking for help on a math problem isn’t a big deal, but asking for help when you are faced with major obstacles in life is a challenge. It’s important to keep in mind that just because someone isn’t straight up in saying they need help, doesn’t mean they don’t need it. Drug addicts and alcoholics aren’t the only ones who need to be saved; there are the quiet ones who may be too afraid or the proud ones who can’t seem to find a way to forget about their reputation. People should be accepting of the assistance they are offered, as well as ready to lend a hand to someone in need.